How to Unleash Your Masculine Primal Confidence: How to Become Confident Around Women

I want to share with you THE most pertinent fact that you will EVER hear about how to be successful with females: IF YOU ARE CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF, FEMALES FIND THAT ATTRACTIVE. PERIOD.

Remember that, because it’s important.  And it will define your success from here on in…

Now I want to talk about how a confident, SEXUAL man is the kind of man that all females secretly desire … and how you can unveil your own sexual confidence and enjoy immediate, significant success with females because of it. With the modern-day explosion of the Media Man – that is, the portrait of ideal and UN-real masculinity portrayed by the media – it’s becoming more and more difficult just to feel adequate.

Forget “great”, “hot”, or “smart”. It’s hard enough just to feel SUFFICIENT. Before every household had a TV, every overpass had a billboard, and every email address had its resident quota of Technicolor’d spam, it was a lot easier for men to feel like SUPERLATIVE BEINGS.

This was mainly because the competition was, comparatively speaking, scarce. There was nobody for the men of this informational golden age to compare themselves with apart from their neighbors, coworkers, friends, and the cashiers at the local supermarket. They weren’t bombarded by images of masculine perfection every time they walked to work, picked up a newspaper, or flicked through a magazine. They didn’t have to compete with the kind of standards set by globally-recognized comics like Steve Martin, Robin Williams, and Chris Rock in order to be thought of as funny or entertaining.

And – most importantly – they knew that their WOMEN didn’t compare them to these iconic, idealistic, and unrealistic figures, either. In short, when there was less competition, it was a lot easier to feel good about yourself as a guy.

Now, however, things are different. Feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem are rampant. Men are making more of an effort than ever to COMBAT the onset of old age, wrinkled skin, the middle-age spread, lack of muscle definition, and orthodontically challenged dentition ….

…But at the same time, they’re feeling WORSE about these things than they ever have before. Even the kinds of normal flaws that make us human are now cause for major concern. The media would have us believe that perfect teeth, Cherokee cheekbones, and calves that bulge like grapefruits are pretty much par for the course among today’s average man. And the easy accessibility (in fact, downright inescapability) of things like mass marketing, brand-specific advertising, and Hollywood in general make us feel like WOMEN are beginning to expect these things of us, too.

The result? The first generation of men who lack sexual confidence on a widespread basis. Plainly put, we feel like we’re not good enough. We worry that females will turn us down. We worry that the OTHER guy over there is more attractive than we are. We fritter away our lives in the futile pursuit of physical and spiritual perfection–something that will NEVER happen, and will NEVER give us TRUE happiness, anyway–instead of accepting what what GOD gave us!

And you know what the weirdest part is? The culmination of all this insecurity-based striving for self-improvement is actually NOT netting us any more success with females, jobs, or self image. Despite the fact that more males in our culture now whiten their collective teeth more than any other group of men in the history of the world… …that over 40% of men between 18 and 35 belong to at least one formal fitness establishment … … and that we spend more money per capita on clothes, personal hygiene, and grooming than ANY OTHER MALE DEMOGRAPHIC IN HISTORY… …American men still aren’t doing any better with females than they have done in the past.

And do you know why this is? The answer is shockingly simple… and yet the consequences are encouraging. It’s the fact that CONFIDENCE IS THE MAJOR ATTRACTOR. Not money. Not muscles. Not hand-tooled leather shoes. And not a jawful of teeth that are whiter than refrigerator doors.

Of course, men who have these qualities do have a slight advantage over men who don’t have these things. But if it came to a toss-up between CONFIDENCE or PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS, a smart man would pick confidence EVERY time.

Take my word for it: once you learn how to unleash your own masculine confidence, and use it to flirt and communicate effectively with females, the results will BLOW YOUR MIND. You’ll get the kinds of responses from women that you’d never IMAGINED that you were capable of. To learn more about this concept and how YOU can apply it to your own life, go here and check out the book:

Supreme Self Confidence for Men

Fact: females are attracted to men who are confident IN THEMSELVES. Call it what you want: being happy in your own body. Comfortable in your skin. Balanced. In The Zone. WHATEVER. No matter what you call it, it’s still the quality that, statistically, MORE FEMALES FIND ATTRACTIVE THAN ANY OTHER ONE FEATURE – and that includes physical beauty.

In other words, you can compare a shy, tongue-tied, or moderately insecure male model with an average-looking, funny, and confident guy…. … and the confident guy will come off the winner EVERY TIME. I’m not sure you’ve given yourself the time to really absorb this fact and what it means for YOU. Go ahead and think about it. It means that, even though females might not be actively attracted to your bald spot, crooked eye tooth, or weird hairy toes, they’re still perfectly capable of finding you overwhelmingly attractive DESPITE these things.

Sure, in a perfect world, you wouldn’t have to bother about those pesky physical imperfections at all – or at least, you’d have the money to surgically alter them as you saw fit. And if anything’s REALLY bothering you, most of the time you can take steps to remedy it – whether it means ramping up your exercise regimen, making an effort to eat better, buying and using a tongue scraper, or secretly getting your chest, stomach, and back waxed every three weeks. But you don’t NEED to do these things, as long as your own attitude towards them is not impacting your sexual and personal confidence. In other words, if YOU’RE not overly fussed about a particular flaw that you’ve perceived on your body, or even in your character (maybe you don’t know how to hang onto a dollar, or you never finished college), then WOMEN won’t be, either.

It’s only when you start obsessing about things and letting your insecurities permeate your social persona and the way you act – trying to cover up, getting defensive, bragging about other stuff to divert your listeners, refusing to take your T-shirt off even in bed – that females figure out that something’s not quite right. And that’s when they adjust their attitudes of you accordingly. YOUR ENEMIES ARE INSECURITY AND LOW SELF-ESTEEM. NOT imperfections, physical flaws, lack of a cool car, or an emaciated wallet.

To a female, there is nothing LESS attractive than a guy who hesitates, mumbles, stammers, and can’t even make eye contact with her because he’s so scared that she’ll turn him down. Expecting to be turned down means you act like a nervous, insecure loser… …and what you most feared will come true. Lack of confidence translates into GUARANTEED failure with females. While rock-solid self-confidence won’t guarantee you success with EVERY SINGLE FEMALE (some of them might be having a bad day… some of them might hate men… some of them might be in a relationship already… etc), it WILL enable you to tune into a certain frequency of attractiveness in a female’s mind, and reap MAJOR benefits.

When you communicate with confidence and sexual assertiveness, you trigger powerful feelings of attraction and sexuality in her. And EMOTIONS and FEELINGS are what she responds to. Bingo.

So if you don’t naturally “get” what I’m talking about here, do yourself a favor and polish up your skills. I highly recommend that you get a copy of the Mastery Series, and put it to good use: The Mastery Series

I mean, females don’t choose men BECAUSE they don’t have a lot of money, work in a menial job, or live in a trailer park. But if you’re confident enough about yourself – and if you ACT like you are – then they will follow your lead, and anything you lack will fade into the background. It will become immaterial. It will never even be an issue in the first place.

Remember what I said above? The most pertinent fact that you will EVER hear about how to be successful with females: IF YOU ARE CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF, FEMALES FIND THAT ATTRACTIVE. PERIOD!

Perfection is NOT what’s required. CONFIDENCE IS. So… how do you actually become more confident? It’s all well and good to think, “OK, even though this belly flab’s been bugging me my entire adult life, I’m going to learn to love it about myself because that’s the easy way out.”

I’m not telling you to be LAZY. You still need to make an effort to be attractive to females – and that means eating right, working out at least three times a week, and dressing as well as you can afford. Deciding to become more self-confident is not a quick fix for the things about yourself that you actually can fix.

Anything you can do that’ll stack the odds in your favor, YOU SHOULD DO IT. If you have a seriously messed up tooth, fix it. If you’re really scrawny and your skin’s whiter than an albino in Alaska, then start eating five meals a day and spend your Sunday afternoons tanning in the back yard (or use a sunbed).

Know what I mean? You should still MAKE AN EFFORT. But at the same time, you should keep it in perspective. Don’t feel like any flaws that you have are going to prevent you from attracting women. Make a conscious decision right now to be the best “you” that you can be, and LET THE REST OF IT GO.

Success with females WILL follow. Here is the NUMBER ONE most important thing that you should do when it comes to interacting with women, under ANY circumstances: acknowledge your true self. A lot of the guys who write in are laboring under the misapprehension that females are attracted to sensitive new-age guys (SNAGs, as they’re so irritatingly called… why do people always have to reduce everything to acronyms?) Or that women prefer the strong, silent type. Or that adventurous, outdoorsy guys get more chicks than computer programmers. Or that men who wear Armani suits are perceived as hotter than men who dress in Nikes and sports pants.

Whatever… the list goes on. You get my point, though – that a lot of guys think that there is a certain “type” or “role” that they should be/play in order to get more female attention. This is nonsense. What you have to do is…are you ready…be strong in yourself. THIS is the most attractive thing EVER to females.

Women don’t want a guy who tries to please them by acting in a way that he thinks they’ll like. They’ll be disgusted and repelled by a guy who’s so spineless as to act in this way. (And even if you’re a good enough actor to pull this act off for awhile, you’re still going to end up with a female who’s attracted to the role you’ve created – not the person you actually are. So you still lose.) What you have to do is figure out what YOU want, and be honest, direct, and up front about it.

Listen, I can go on and on, but like I said, if there’s a tool that will get you from Point A–where you are now–to Point B, where you’d LIKE to be, you have to take good hold of it and USE it! And that tool really is Ultimate Self Confidence. Check it out, give it a shot, and go from there.

Confidence is something we need in everything: making a sale, landing a job, GETTING A GIRL. So do something that will change your life, and don’t look back.

You won’t regret it!

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In any relationship, no two people’s confidence will ever match to perfection. However successful couples tend to share part of a confidence continuum, usually the positive end, which raises the level of tolerance in each person, thus prolonging the union. Where confidence is highly mismatched, which affects a high proportion of relationships, one partner is likely to grow within esteem as he/she settles into the union and achieves his/her own goals, while the other will noticeably lag behind, more than expected feeling insecure and inadequate.
Within such cases it is difficult to be mutually supportive because the confident party would be keen to get on while the other would be more cautious, fearful or even resentful. As expectations won’t be met, frustrations soon become apparent, strangling enthusiasm and effort, while competition or apathy sets in. The seeds for a breakdown would already be within place. In fact, one could almost predict the development of a relationship from the individual scores of a good confidence quiz administered through courtship!

Hard to Please
People with low esteem are also very self-conscious in appearance, being difficult to please and to reach, because of their defensive barriers. They tend to be overtly superficial, mean with appreciation and often inspire little reliance within, or respect from, others. You will rarely hear the words ‘I love you’, ‘I admire you’, ‘You look great’, ‘Wonderful to have you within my life’, or ‘You’re so clever’ from low-confidence partners because they want such praise too and, not getting it from anywhere, they cannot reciprocate. Instead, they adopt a superior attitude and partners are likely to be treated as though they should be grateful for any affection or attention they receive.
However, being low in self-worth, and also with an insatiable need for reinforcement to boost their own egos, those of poor esteem are always expecting others to affirm them, to love them and to value what they do continuously. They tend to believe their more positive partners are never doing enough to appreciate them – a situation which is likely to become wearisome for that partner because of the one-way nature of the relationship. We have to love ourselves first before we can understand that love and then pass it back to others.
Low-confidence people also find it hard to solve personal difficulties. Being too ready to blame others for their own misfortune, they expect scapegoats to provide the answers, often refusing to believe that any solution lies within themselves. Blaming others becomes a handy crutch for doing nothing. Sadly, it also maintains their low self-acceptance and reduces their personal value and appeal.

Dragged Down by Negativity
The trouble with having extremes of confidence competing within a relationship is that, sooner or later, the positive person will be dragged down by the negativity of the other, be severely limited by her, be demoralised by his inevitable criticism and carping or, alternatively, be suffocated by her fawning, whingeing or marked lack of respect for personal space. Males with low self-esteem tend to be controllers in relationships, always keen to control their environment excessively, like wardens in a prison, and to point out blunders and errors. They tend to feel insecure if they are not in charge. Such men often seem quiet, retiring and competent to others, but are likely to behave like bullies at home, especially towards their family – the captive audience.
Characterised by weakness and dependency, females with low esteem tend to behave like doormats, always trying to please, even at their own expense. They are usually the last to appreciate their negative circumstances which many others can easily see. Often they take their treatment without a whimper, no matter how degrading, violent and brutal, within return for the continuing attention, approval and self-reinforcement they crave. In time, for both men and women, they lose their self-respect entirely, their friends gradually disappear and they become dependent upon their job as workaholics, upon friends or relatives, or upon each other, especially for self-reinforcement and validation. Such relationships are likely to exclude others, becoming increasingly limiting, claustrophobic and destructive in the end.