21 Easy Actions to Get-Confidence

Confidence is preparation.  Everything else is beyond your control.  ~Richard KlineThe man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled.  ~Andrew Carnegie

Get confidence biggest enemy is fear of failure … and the lack of commitment to overcome that fear. It’s something we all face, to some degree, I think. The key question: how do you overcome that fear?

To get confidence you have to consistently commit to work on your self-confidence and self-esteem. You also have to clear your expectations of being completely confident all the time. We all have a human need to grow, and to grow we have to step out of our comfort zone. And everything new is scary one way or another in the beginning.

But if you do it once and break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side. I’ve done that many times now, and that success will fuel further success.

The actions mentioned below will give a boost to get confidence.

Taking control and get confidence
If you are low in self-confidence, is it possible to do things that will change that?

While it may not seem so, if you are low in self-confidence, I strongly believe that you can do things to get confidence. It is not genetic, and you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence.

You can do this by taking control of your life, and commit to get confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can grow and get confidence, without the help of anyone else.

Below are 21 things that will help you get confidence, in no particular order:

1. Rise and shine. This seems like such an obvious one, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and a (shave) can make in your feelings to get confidence and for your self-image. Start your day with empowering rituals.

2. Photoshop your self-image. Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often realize. We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we are in ourselves. Use your mental Photo shopping skills, and work on your self-image to get confidence.

3. Think positive. Lear how to replace negative thoughts (see next item) with positive ones. How you actually can change your thoughts and get confidence, and by doing so make great things happen.

4. Kill negative thoughts. Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it’s so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing. Clear yourself from all distractions and replace negative thoughts with a positive ones. (“C’mon, I can do this!”)

Know yourself and you will win all battles. – Sun Tzu

5. Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Self-awareness is the foundation to get confidence.

6. Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to get confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll  notice the difference.

7. Be kind and generous. If this is too corny for you, move on. But know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image. To feel good about yourself and to think that you are a good person will get you confidence above all.

8. Get prepared. It’s hard to get confidence if you don’t think you’ll do well at something. Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Think about taking an exam: if you studied your butt off, you’re prepared, and you’ll be confident. Now think of life as your exam, and prepare yourself.

9. Know your values and live them. What are the values which your life is built? If you don’t know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. Think about your values … you might have them but perhaps you haven’t given them much thought. Now live these values and get confidence by being true to yourself.

10. Stand tall. When I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel better about myself. I imagine that a rope is pulling the top of my head toward the sky, and the rest of my body straightens accordingly. As a bonus, people who stand tall and confident are more attractive. That’s a good thing to get confidence even if you shouldn’t build your confidence thru others.

11. Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don’t try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you’ll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write (for example), and the practice will increase your competence. You will get confidence as a writer or whatever you focus on.

12. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too. Get confidence by goal setting.

13. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you’ve accomplished it, you’ll feel like a million bucks. Get confidence through daily habits.

14. Focus on solutions. If you are a complainer, or focus on problems, change your focus now. Focusing on solutions instead of problems is one of the best things you can do for your confidence and your career. “I’m fat and lazy!” So how can you solve that? “But I can’t motivate myself!” So how can you solve that? “But I have no energy!” So what’s the solution?

15. Smile. Another trite one, but it works. I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Not a bad investment of your time and energy to get confidence.

16. Be grateful. Gratitude, for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image and get confidence into your life.

17. Exercise. Exercise is one of the most empowering activities. All you have to do is take a walk a few times a week, and you’ll see benefits. You don’t have to be a fitness lunatic to get confidence.

18. Do something you’ve been procrastinating on. What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself and you’ll get confidence by being productive.

19. Get active. Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes … but mistakes are a part of life. It’s how we learn. Without mistakes, we’d never get better. So don’t worry about those. Just do something. Just do it and get active — physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.

20. Work on small things. Trying to take on a huge project or task can be overwhelming and daunting and intimidating for anyone, even the best of us. Instead, learn to break off small chunks and work in bursts. Small little achievements make you feel good, and they add up to big achievements. Learn to work like this all the time, and soon you’ll get confidence like a king.

21. Clear your desk. This might seem like a small, simple thing (then again, for some of you it might not be so small). If the world around is in chaos, clearing off the desk gives a feeling of control. Get Confidence and organized in life.

KlineThe man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled. ~Andrew Carnegie