3 easy tools to get you confident quickly:

Here’s an easy way to get confidence for you. Many people tell me that they already know about this method but knowing is not the same as being able to. To really have some great results you have to play it all out and JUST DO IT.
Have a quiet moment by yourself and think this through and the outcome will be surprising if you commit yourself truly.

1. Think of a specific moment where you want to get confidence, it has to be specific and attached to a situation/place/time. Clarity in what you really want support confidence.
2. Think through how you want to act in that specific moment. What words do you say to yourself with your inner dialog. What questions do you think of (make sure they are positive questions to support your task) How do you focus on what’s really important in that very moment.
3. Visualize that moment by closing your eyes and imagine what you say/think/focus on in a relaxed and confident way. See yourself dealing with the task in a relaxed and confidence way. Rehearse it as many times you like until you feel you can do it without effort. This way your subconscious mind get programmed to support you in your task.



This works like any other kind of workout, the more you do it the easier it will get. And any area you invest time in becomes stronger and you will get confidence in that area of your life. This method is pretty quick though and you don’t need years to have great results. You will feel stronger and more resourceful after a few times and that will motivate you to do some more. Practice makes perfect!

Good luck!

5 Tips to Gain Self Confidence

Some people struggle with low confidence. It can be so low as to be painful and hold a person back from doing many things in life.

The longer you do not address the lack of self confidence, the worse things will get. It becomes a vicious circle of thinking poorly about yourself and thinking others think poorly of you. It begins to affect everything you do just as though you had put on dark glasses – it colors your world.

Gaining self confidence is a process that can take some time, but is certainly worth it. How can you build on it? It is a matter of changing the messages you might have been given as a child, and your self talk now.

Here are some tips to gain confidence, feel better about yourself and your situation in life.

1. Listen to what you tell yourself.

Much of what we say to ourselves, when we have low self confidence is negative. Catch what you are saying to yourself and turn it around to something positive. It may take a while, as it becomes a habit. Just start listening and then use the second tip.

2. Use positive self talk.

Talk to your self in a positive way, even if you need to talk to yourself outloud. This can be anything from affirmations, to thinking positively about your accomplishments. This helps gain self confidence.

For example, when learning something new: Maybe you say “Man, I am stupid. I just can’t get this”. Change that to: ” I have learned many challenging things in the past (then list a couple), I see other people doing this, and I can learn it too”.

3. Make A List of your good points and accomplishments.

Come on, you DO have some good points, and you have accomplished some things. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

Take some time to write a list. This will get it out on paper where you can see it. Maybe you have never really taken a look at your good points, or accomplishments. Pat yourself on the back figuratively. Good job.

4. Reference Your List

Put your list where you will see it every day. If you don’t want other people to see it, how about putting it in your sock drawer. Every day you get clean socks and can remind your self of your positive aspects to gain self confidence. If you don’t mind other people see it, put it in a prominent place. Put a mini one in your wallet to refer when away from home.

Wherever you put it, start your day out by reading the list over. Read it again in the evening.

Change your list as you need to. You may think of new positive aspects of yourself, or be able to add to your list of accomplishments.

5. If you start to feel down or overwhelmed, give yourself a talking to. Everyone goes through things in their life, what ever brought your self confidence down, is not often permanent. It will change, or time will go bye and people will forget.

Get confidence in life by asking yourself better questions on a regular basis. The quality of your life is defined by the quality of the questions you ask yourself. If you ask questions where you search for understanding, solutions in the experience you will set your mind in an abundant state where positive outcomes will happen. You will like the answers and outcomes because they will bring you success and you get confidence.  So the question you should ask yourself now is, do I ask myself good questions?

If you ask yourself the wrong kind of questions you will feel misfortunate and unfairly treated by the events in this world. With that said it doesn’t necessary mean that everything is fair or that it should be neglected. But we can’t control events and we should certainly not letting event control us. We are in total control of what every event should mean to us just like every coin has two sides.

We can chose if we prefer to focus on the opportunity side first or only on one of the sides and so on. For a starter you can get confidence by being aware of that fact and start to ask yourself what’s the positive effect of every event? This will give you an open mind that will look for solutions and build self-esteem when dealing with challenges.

To make sure that you gain confidence you should avoid the following type of questions:

• Why do I always mess things up?
• Why does this always happen to me?
• Why can’t I succeed in life when everybody else do?
• How come everybody’s so unfair to me?

These questions will not build confidence so if you use to ask that type of questions here’s an exercise for you. Write them down on a piece of paper, all of them that falls into the same category.  When you are done you do something really stupid with that piece of paper to make a clear statement on how ridiculous those questions have served you. Laugh out loud at that stupid paper, fold it together and jump on it or even sneeze yourself in it. Anything to symbolically clean yourself from those questions.

Now you are like an empty cup, ready to fill it up with something fresh.

What kind of empowering questions will you fill your cup with to get confidence?